This is a photo of Juney, my grandma holding me. My mom, BA as in Betty Anne is sitting next to her. Our Pekingese, Shaggy is on my mom’s lap. Shaggy bit me under my nose when I was a young child. He had a sensitive spot and if touched, he would bite. Otherwise, he was about as Zen as they come. My sister and I would put him on top of our collie (like cowboy in saddle) to provoke him into movement. Shaggy was like a monk — quiet and spiritual. He was a kind dog.
I wish I could go back in time and ask my grandma all the questions I have for her now.
What was it like to go to Cuba in the 1930s?
Tell me about Speakeasies? Did you go without telling Granny Dell?
I can hear her answer that one … “Of course, I didn’t tell Mother! I wouldn’t dream of it. Harriet and I used to sneak out. We were very clever like that Mother was a a member of the WCTM (Women’s Christian Temperance Union).”
I have my little notepad and write her messages to keep a diary and include it ALL. Grandma was a humble woman and very private. She was equally fascinating and is certainly the main character of this memoir.
Juney’s story of her past as a gourmet executive chef and business woman didn’t matter at this moment in the photo. What mattered most to her was she was a grandma — she was Grandma. That was the role she loved the most.
The German Shepard there is Penny. Mom got rid of her because she bit us. There was no reason to it. Shaggy got the pass because of the Pekingese temperament. Every Pekingese has a sensitive spot. Mom got rid of Penny when she snapped at us when we were kids. I wish I could call Mom up right now and muse a bit about Penny and get the exact reason. My mind wanders and wants to know, “Did Penny bite us? Or did she just snap at us?”
Funny, what we can get stuck on. I have a deep desire to know every exact truth about my grandma, mom, and great-grandmother, but I can’t really. We are private creatures as humans and most people (besides journalers and writers, don’t share those private moments and thoughts in our heads).
But I am on a quest to find the truth of my Elizabeths — Elizabeth Odell (great-grandmother — Granny “Dell”), Elizabeth Odell Welch (grandma — “Juney”), Elizabeth Welch Miller (Mom — “BA,” “Betty Anne,” “Betty”) and me (Megan Elizabeth Miller Oteri, memomuse).